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BEAUTIFUL - Pleasing the senses or mind aesthetically.
Am I intelligent? Am I smart? Or is being beautiful the only thing I'm capable of offering?
These are the questions I have been asking for the majority of my life. As a young girl, I often heard, "Samara, you are so pretty." What I missed hearing was, "Samara, you are so intelligent, so smart, so creative, so inspiring." Being pretty became the job and the main focus. Which made it increasingly easy to believe I was unintelligent and not capable of offering anything other than a pretty face.
Growing up on a constant diet of attention, I developed a way of moving in the world. As a young girl, attaining my own personality proved to be very difficult. Most were permanently dedicated to projecting a ready-made personality based on my features. External attention became the only way to feel normal. The exterior can be so influential; it is always at risk of dimming everything else. I became totally dependent on external validation. It became effortless to shrink into the ready-made box most showed up with. The unchanging need for external validation made for a lonely, needy, and banal life.
Studies have shown that women and girls who are persistently judged based on their outer appearance tend to suffer significantly higher rates of depression and mental illness. Girls as young as seven feel pressure to be pretty. The constant pressure to choose beauty over intellect, the idea that girls can't have both or that one is inferior to the other suggests that we are valued for what we look like and not who we are.
I know there are going to be some people who think I'm whining, or to some degree, ungrateful. I'm blessed to have been brought into this world just as I am. I have never felt the need to change my outer appearance permanently. I know I'm beautiful, inside and out. However, that doesn't change people's perception of me. And there lies the problem, getting people to focus on what they can't see versus what they can. The bottom line little girls need both, we need to be smart and pretty. It has taken a long time, but I understand I am so much more than the vessel used to transport me here.
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BEAUTIFUL - Pleasing the senses or mind aesthetically.
Am I intelligent? Am I smart? Or is being beautiful the only thing I'm capable of offering?
These are the questions I have been asking for the majority of my life. As a young girl, I often heard, "Samara, you are so pretty." What I missed hearing was, "Samara, you are so intelligent, so smart, so creative, so inspiring." Being pretty became the job and the main focus. Which made it increasingly easy to believe I was unintelligent and not capable of offering anything other than a pretty face.
Growing up on a constant diet of attention, I developed a way of moving in the world. As a young girl, attaining my own personality proved to be very difficult. Most were permanently dedicated to projecting a ready-made personality based on my features. External attention became the only way to feel normal. The exterior can be so influential; it is always at risk of dimming everything else. I became totally dependent on external validation. It became effortless to shrink into the ready-made box most showed up with. The unchanging need for external validation made for a lonely, needy, and banal life.
Studies have shown that women and girls who are persistently judged based on their outer appearance tend to suffer significantly higher rates of depression and mental illness. Girls as young as seven feel pressure to be pretty. The constant pressure to choose beauty over intellect, the idea that girls can't have both or that one is inferior to the other suggests that we are valued for what we look like and not who we are.
I know there are going to be some people who think I'm whining, or to some degree, ungrateful. I'm blessed to have been brought into this world just as I am. I have never felt the need to change my outer appearance permanently. I know I'm beautiful, inside and out. However, that doesn't change people's perception of me. And there lies the problem, getting people to focus on what they can't see versus what they can. The bottom line little girls need both, we need to be smart and pretty. It has taken a long time, but I understand I am so much more than the vessel used to transport me here.
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